Tia Juana will cheerfully provide advice for anyone that asks. Just mail your questions to “Ask Tia Juana” at PO Box 8, Van Horn, Texas 79855. All questions will remain anonymous unless there is a chance for extortion. Disclaimer: Tia Juana is not a licensed counselor or therapist and none of the advice should be considered professional.
Dear Tia,
I’m all for exes getting along, but in this case, I think that my husband’s friendly relationship with his ex-wife is over the top. Not only does he call her all the time, she calls him, messages him and texts him constantly. I understand that they have a child together, but I think that she is using that as an excuse to keep in contact with him. It has become an issue in our marriage now, and I’m even thinking that if I become an “ex,” that I will get more attention than I am getting now. Am I being unreasonable?
Sister wife
Dear Sis,
In this case, I don’t think it’s unreasonable of you to have doubts about the extent of communication with your hubby’s ex. Although it is admirable that your husband and his ex have an amicable relationship, there are limits to what sounds like excessive communication. You did not mention if his ex has remarried, because if she is not, she may be trying to hang on to, or rekindle their relationship by using their child as an excuse to contact your husband. You are well within your rights to confront your husband about the constant contact and ask or demand that he limit communications with his ex to issues with their child. Don’t be surprised if he resents the implication and becomes defensive. However, if he continues, don’t be surprised if the end of your relationship is near, because obviously he was not over his ex when he married you. Good luck.
