Dear Tia Juana,
My wife and I have been married for almost 20 years and I love her dearly. However, she has a habit of opening my mail and reading my texts or emails. Then, she constantly questions me about who I am texting or calling. I have nothing to hide, but I was raised that there should be some degree of privacy even between people that have been married for as long as we have. Am I wrong for resenting her “nosiness?”
– Married to the CIA
You could send mail tainted with cyanide or arsenic or rig your computer with a Taser, but the only way that you will get her to understand is to talk to her and tell her how you feel. If you have never given her any reason to distrust you or your relationship, there is no reason that even married couples should open each other’s mail. That is tantamount to her using your toothbrush and is not acceptable. If she continues to be nosy, then her mail is fair game.
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