Ask Tia Juana

     Tia Juana will cheerfully provide advice for anyone that asks.  Just mail your questions to “Ask Tia Juana” at PO Box 8, Van Horn, Texas 79855.  All questions will remain anonymous unless there is a chance for extortion.  Disclaimer:  Tia Juana is not a licensed counselor or therapist and none of the advice should be considered professional.

Dear Tia,

What makes men, especially older ones, think that it’s okay to make sexual innuendos at work to their co-workers?  I have a lot of respect for my boss, but he is becoming bolder and more lewd in his remarks.  I would never think of making “jokes” or asking totally inappropriate questions like he does.  It’s not like I encourage him, but I don’t know how to respond and it’s very uncomfortable.  I need this job but I am at the point where I just avoid him at all costs.  What should I do?

Needing a shower

Dear Needing,

I am so sorry that you have to join the ranks of millions of women who have been embarrassed and made to feel uncomfortable by a lecherous man.  For some reason, some men think that it is perfectly all right to make inappropriate and unwanted or unsolicited comments to a woman of any age.  The sad part is that most of the time, the perpetrators are clueless that their behavior is offensive and disgusting.  It is even worse if the creep is a person in authority or your boss, where you feel like you have to accept this kind of behavior.  As difficult as it may seem, if you want to stop the comments, you need to sit down and have a chat with him and tell him how you feel, and if it continues, do not be afraid to make a formal complaint to HIS boss.  Good luck!